Hi all. I need your advice

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  • There is something called Family Medical Leave which if you think they are treating you unfairly, your doctor can fill out paperwork which allows up to 12 work weeks off of unpaid time. Usually if you work for a larger company they are scared of lawsuits for firing someone with health issues. When I worked, I missed way more than 12 weeks because I just couldn't work anymore but I was also trying to file for disability under my work's plan, even after I missed so much time they still didn't technically fire me, it was a separation of employment which allows me to interview for a position again. I'm not saying try to gain the system just that there are options if you feel you are having a hard time. I say do whatever makes you happy and what you can physically do.

  • I had to stop working, i also missed deadlines, forgot to complete tasks assigned to me, couldn't make it in at all some days etc. It was one of the hardest devisions I've ever had to make but the best decision for me. I'm very fortunate that I have very good long term disability through my job and was approved first try. they put me through a very rigorous rehab program a year ago that proved I was unable to return to work And I have been seeing a therapist for the past year to help with all the emotions I've been having about leaving my job, being sick, feeling no purpose or self worth. It's been a long hard journey and I feel that I have at long last found peace with my situation. You need to do what is best for you both mentally and physically and make sure you have an exit plan for leaving your job. We have a lot a lot more to deal with than healthy people so the better prepared you are the easier it will be for you. Good luck!

  • I'm sorry :( no way I could work full time now. I just work part time and that is a struggle! Thankfully I have my husband to help support me. I can't imagine having to cover all my expenses. All I can do is say that we are only human and this is not our fault. You can only do your best and maybe you do need a different kind of job. It is so frustrating to have things out of our control. My whole life I took my health for granted and believed I could accomplish whatever I wanted with hard work, but I can't will this away. It's amazing that you can work because a lot of us can't. You should give yourself a good pat on the back- even if your boss doesn't.

  • Thanks for sharing your experience.

  • Thank you for sharing. Do you remember the criteria for long term disability?

  • Thank you for your support.

  • I appreciate each of you taking the time to share your experiences with me. I am going to look into the long term disability.

  • I live in Canada so my doctor filled out all the necessary paper work and at that time I didn't even have the NDPH diagnosis. Both my family doctor and both the Neurologists I have seen so 3 doctors continue to reiterate that this is an intractable difficult to treat headache syndrome That has no known cure and in all likelihood I may never be able to return to work. I am still a young 51 so I fully expect that they may try in the future to see if I'm able to return to work. i also receive Canada Pension Plan disability. I'm so grateful to have these resources to support me.

  • when i went down almost 4 years ago, it hit so hard, i couldnt function for 6 months. In that time, i had a seperation from my company i was with for 4 years. To this day, i am still not medically cleared by either one of my drs. And to be honest, my wife wouldnt allow me to even consider looking for something even if i had too. I have been doing woodworking the past couple years just to keep me busy when i am able too. That wears me down within an hour or 2, but i keep going just to try and work through the pain. Most of the time i over due it and am down for days on end. So that has slowly decreased over time. So I started doing things while sitting down in my basement, and have been able to do that to take the place, but still wears me down. But all in all, Do what YOU need to do, and take care of yourself. If you have a caring company, they will understand if you take FMLA to care for yourself. If your not back to yourself after the 12 weeks of FMLA and they decide to do a separation from the company, make sure you get paperwork in for ssdi, that process takes a long time. But take care of yourself first is the main thing!

  • I got fired from my job of almost 9 years last October. I wasn't as good as the other girls and I was having a problem keeping up, but they wiggled around my ADA and I was gone. I was going to file a complaint, but I got diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis a month later and couldn't handle the stress. Learn about your rights, get your ADA and FMLA started immediately.

  • Thank you Kevin. I appreciate you sharing your story.

  • Thanks for sharing your experience Alicia. I will definitely look into the ADA and FMLA. Good luck to you.

  • hmmm....I'm not sure if my primary neurologist would sign off on the paperwork. We've had a similar discussion before and she believes that it is best to try to keep working. But then again, she will also say that we have tried everything without much relief. I'm going to talk to her again to explain how my situation has changed since she and I last spoke about disability. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  • I'm sorry. We have to find a cure. My 13 year old daughter has had a constant migraine for 2 1/2 years. It has taken over her life.

  • Keep doing your job as best as you can while looking for something less stressful to you. You are sick. You need to adjust your life. Otherwise you will end up with wore headaches. I know. I've been there. Take care of yourself.

  • Please do so and fight for yourself! I'm very passionate about this, especially now. Good luck!